In my last trip to Istanbul ( turkey ) when i was taking the tram back to the hotel , three girls approach to me and asked me a question ....
Why Islam encouraging men to marry four wives ?
It's not fair for the woman to share her husband with another woman
Is the stander scale of marriage is polygamy ?
There is a common mistake of misunderstanding the quran verses that talks about marriage . which in surah al nesaa * فانكحو ماطاب لكم من النساء مثني و ثلاث و رباع * ( marry a women from your choice , two or three or four )
Hey ... see the quran said that ...
Yes it does say that , but why you don't finish the verse * فان خفتم ان لا تعدلو فواحده * ( but if you fear that you wont be able to be fair to them then just one .) and in the same surah in another verse the quran said * و لن تستطيعو ان تعدلو بين النساء و لو حرصتم * (you will not be able to deal equally between your wives even if you are trying ) .
I still didn't get the answer why Islam encourage that ?
Islam doesn't encourage men to marry four wives . he just allows it with terms . but Islam doesn't give any goods for men marrying four women ... or make the man who is marrying four better than the man who married just one . and he warns the unfair husbands with painful torture * و للظالمين عذاب اليم * ( for whom unfair or unjust is painful doom ) so Islam warns the men about unjust to the women and allows it only if the husband will be fair to them .
But Allah said , you can't be fair to them even if you are trying
How come he allows it when he knows the man can't be fair ?
Allah said to be fair to them in a way the person can do and handle which is the equality in ( expense and sleep over ) . that's what the person can do and can control .
Istill don't get it
Let me give you an example , if a guy married two women , and he loves one better than the other , allah can't charge him for loving one more than the other , because the man can't control his heart . but allah charge him if he didn't equal and just between them in ( expense and sleep over ) . he has to treat them both equally in every thing .
and the prophet muhamed were saying to allah ( i justify for what i owe , so don't charge me for what i can't owe ) .
But i don't want to live in fear that my husband will marry another one !!
Before you marry you can put term that your husband wont be allow to marry another women without your blessing and approval and the husband has to comply with the term .
Okay , i'm so relieved , i feel so much better now
okay tell me is the islam that came with the idea of polygamy ?
Not at all , the Islam limited polygamy for only a four wives with terms . before islam every one was allowed to have any numbers of wives he wants and without any terms...
One of the companions before he convert to islam , he has 10 wives but when he convert prophet muhamed told him keep only four . and before the prophet muhamed death ( at his final sick ) he said * استوصو بالنساء خيرا * ( i command you to be good to the women , be easy on the women ) .
Jazakom Allah khyran w assalamu alikum ( peace be upon you )
wrote by :
Mak omar
